Our families, cultures, societies and systems shape who we become. This mix of influences can be compared to a language that we learn as children - it is natural and becomes part of us, no matter how complex the language is. The older we get the more difficult it is to learn a new language. However, it is still possible, even if some accent remains. The process of therapy and transformation is similar as learning new, healthier ways of being and unlearning what doesn't serve us anymore. This can be as challenging as learning a new language. The good news is it is possible and the therapy relationship is there to support you. We all have the capacity and potential within us when we adapt a child-like mindset and become curious again.
Therapy is a tool that can help you to reconnect to your core self, reinvent and transform your life. I see therapy as a nonlinear and multifaceted process where a client and therapist work together to capitalise the client’s best interest.
Therapy is an investment in yourself and reconnecting to your inner strengths that helped you to survive until now. It is about recognising issues as we all have them and daring to take an action to look at them differently. So it is an act of courage. Taking care of your mental health is as important as looking after your physical health.
Psychotherapy and counselling are not only for people who struggle with difficulties or can’t cope by themselves. It is also for those who want to improve and develop themselves – deepen their emotional intelligence, self-awareness and become masters of their emotional world. In addition, you might seek therapy because you want to talk confidentially to someone who is not emotionally involved like your family or friends and can show you an alternative perspective or help to discover new insights.
We often see emotions as problem, yet they are only a GPS signal, information and indication of ourselves, our needs and cues of what is happening in our environment.
What therapy is and isn’t?
· Therapy is not advising or telling you what to do but it’s guiding, facilitating and empowering you
· Therapy is not a quick fix but it reaches to the core and origins of the issues you struggle with
· Therapy is not limited to techniques and strategies, but it’s a mirror of how you relate to yourself and others
· Therapy is not linear and precisely structured process, but it’s multidimensional and at times messy